How many times have you heard (or said) the phrase – ‘I just say it like it is. I’m not here to make friends. I’m here to get stuff done’. Argh!
And how many times has it been met with universal approval? Never.
But…we all need to share our ideas or concerns. To challenge and be heard.
So, let’s try to resolve that conundrum. Grab a cuppa and settle in for the next tool in your autumn / winter toolkit to make it all a bit easier.
I call it: TOO direct or not TOO direct? That’s the question.
Do you have that perfect image of yourself you’d love to be true? That halo-covered head who gets the perfect balance…
Ahh. Just imagine how marvellous you’d be. They’d write books about you. And give you a massive pay rise!
But it’s not an easy balance to strike:
In reality, nobody gets it right all of the time but there are a few simple questions to help you make the right call more often.
How to be perfectly direct
So, before you tear into the next room and tell them exactly what you think… ask yourself the following.
Who do I want to be?
What do I need from this discussion?
Who are they?
Taking 5 minutes to ask yourself these key questions over breakfast, in the shower or on the train – before a key meeting – will help get that balance right.
Oh, and tell me when you get to the halo-perfect state – I want to write that book!